How to Repair a Relationship | What Every Man Wants (but almost no Woman Gives)

I love to watch lovers relating to one another.  Love relationships are played out in movie themes, plays, music and current events on the news. So much so, that many of us have distorted views of what a romantic relationship is and unrealistic expectations of how to love one another.

As we watch with curiosity and amazement—the tendency is to judge our own personal relationships from these highly visible encounters.  There is no way to know why these relationships didn’t work. Where is the help on how to repair a relationship?

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Women on Top: How Real Life Has Changed Women’s Sexual Fantasies (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

On more than one occasion I have found myself commenting about someone’s relationship:

  • “I don’t know why Janice and Bobby ever got married, they are total opposites. He’s outgoing and she’s dull and lifeless.
  • On the other hand, I went to Tanya and John’s wedding– they were a beautiful couple and seemed so in love.  Didn’t last 2 years.
  • But I must say the real shocker wasNancy and Tom—married 35 years.  Now, if you stay together that long—why would you be getting a divorce?

I should be shocked at some of these lost relationships. But again, I wonder how to repair a relationship—is there a tool to help couples create the relationship they desire?

As President of www.OneStopLegalSolution.com , a legal document preparation company, I know the stories of countless women seeking a divorce. We prepare divorce documents and I hear the stories of infidelity, loneliness and unhappiness. Many of these women express a desire to live passionately and vibrantly—right now, with the right person.

Out of all the divorces we’ve prepared, I heard similar statements:

  • I’d rather be married
  • I still love him but I don’t know how to make it work
  • I wish I knew how to get his attention—I want to feel loved.

If you desire to experience passionate and vibrant love relations with your current spouse, boyfriend–or you want to prepare for a new relationship—I found a tool that can help you enhance or create change in your relationships. I think you’ll discover how to repair a relationship and get the love you desire.

If your man is not communicating, ignoring you or just doesn’t seem to care—you need to take action—NOW!

Click Here to learn more:  What EVERY man wants (but almost NO woman gives)…

Then come back and join the conversation.  What did you do to get your man’s attention and renewed love interest?

 

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Meditate and Grow Rich For Life!

If you’re searching for one factor that can alter your life right away, and even Favorably and generously then Meditation is what you want. The extensive collection of meditation rewards can be witnessed from both near and far. You most likely feel tranquil at the moment merely from the idea of meditation, now don’t you? I’m not going to tell you that you don’t have a very good reason to feel peaceful about meditation. It’s been clinically proven that when you take time to reflect during your day, your health has the potential to get better overnight. Let’s talk about the benefits of taking a break during the day to you, in short the gains to your body, mind and spirit are going to be huge. I know you can use a break to catch your breath each day. If you want to get back your day, you can do it! Meditation is for more than simply sitting down and taking a couple deep breaths of air. Meditation is a dynamic bonus, of yoga breathing, focus, rhythmic motion, programming new behavior responses, erasing unwanted emotional patterns, visualization and  the list goes on from there. Meditation can afford you with the time to get your life just the way you want it by at least visualizing what you want while you’re deep in a trance state. Whatever you want to change or improve about your life can be done while you’re deep in a meditation. The speed  you can change your life depends on your efforts to success. The best thing about introspection is that it’s a personal accountability thing. Whatever happens is solely on you and your intention. You get out of meditation whatever you put in.

How to Keep Up The Loving: Creative Ideas For Your Long- Distance Relationship

Long Distance Relationships
Long Distance Relationships (Photo credit: valordictus)

 
Engaging in a long-distance relationship can be quite difficult! To keep things new and intriguing, take time to send special messages to your beloved on a frequent basis.

Use popular messenger services like Facebook, Yahoo, Skype, etc. to keep your love life jumping, although especially since its long distance. The added benefit of using these instant message services is that you two will each have some privacy and can reinforce the depth of your communication this way. It’s a good bet to instant messaging as often as you both can!

Get really creative by writing a letter or finding a picture of something you have shared together. Paste the letter or picture to a piece of cardboard and then cut it into several puzzle pieces. Send your long distance love a few pieces every other day in the mail and once they have completed the puzzle send some roses in celebration of their accomplishment!

You can also send a package with a cd of passionate songs you two enjoy from an earlier time you were together. Send out something sweet like fruit or candy too, and if they enjoy stuffed animals you should send that as well. Tell them how much they’re missed and how you imagine them continuously. There is really no way to mess this up unless you if you just do nothing. Otherwise, almost anything you can come up with is a fantastic way to let your love know you’re thinking about them regardless of the distance between the two of you.

Another idea is to have someone take photos of you and produce a hand crafted calendar, sounds simple enough right? Well it certainly is! Get into to the spirit of it, create a master piece and they’ll love it! Grab some card-stock paper and glue a decorative border on each side. Print a copy of it on the printer and increase the size of the pictures, then paste them to the paper. Next print out boxes on the computer for the days and decorate each day,  month or week. Finally place your creation  together with a nice ribbon and send it to your mate with love. Your loved one will love your hard work!

Alternately you can send your sweetheart some letters adorned with your favorite scent. Cut old clothing and soak pieces of the fabric with your scent and include those in the package and the smell will last even longer.

Nobody wants to miss an important occasion with their loved one. Who says you have to? There are ways to share the magical times together in spite of whatever distances between the two of you. If you can’t be together to share a special moment, simply send your long distance lover take out by ordering from a restaurant where your mate  lives and have dinner delivered to them. Make sure you order your love’s favorite meal. Then use your webcams to enjoy dinner together.

Instead of sending your love a hand-written letter, hand deliver a personalized cd with your special message on it, and share details of your thoughts for them when you next meet. They can listen to the tape when the two of you can’t talk by phone or computer when they want to hear your voice.
Delight your mate by arranging for a delivery of their favorite flowers! Include a handwritten card professing your love for your lover. They’ll be so warm and mushy inside from your thoughtfulness.

Style and design a website in your lovers honor. Devote the site to your sweet romance and incorporate quotes, poetry, affirmations  and thoughts, photographs, romantic messages, also add the history of how you two met, and any other information to bring  a smile to their face.

Your partner would enjoy a virtual greeting card from you one day too, try it. Grab their email address and send them straight to their inbox as often as you’d like.

Collect a record of all of your emails over your relationship. As soon as  you have accumulated at least a year of emails print them all out and separate them by topic, month or day.

Last, make a front page that connects all the sweet things that you’ve enjoyed together. Include a collage of pictures, too. Take your print to a printer shop to have the pages binded into a real book! Make sure to give your ‘book of distance love’ a title, like “Love is Sweet” include the perfect book title on the cover. You’ll be glad you took the extra time. Your love can last throughout time now that it’s in a book. Enjoy your love life no matter what.

Welcome Your Universal Inner Awakening With Joy!

 

An ever awakening and expanding into a sea on no-things is one of the best lives that one could have this lifetime. As the shedding of the ego* continues, choose to exude more joy each moment and second that came before the last one. The constant love that blooms from each of us is one experience that we can bring forth a little more each day by allowing the elixir of God to reflect from us and to also touch us. The ascension of harmony on this planet is ever flowing like a moist mystically conscious spring of all that exists, the truth is that WE are all-knowing, we’ve always been naturally loving in our divine light. Live Light. Blissful love to you on this Friday~ Who will sacrifice the lower for the higher to thrive and heal this planet? <3 Please comment if you feel the love~

THE EMPTY JOURNEY TO THE PEACEFUL VOID ~ THE JOURNEY FROM PAIN TO PLEASURE Pt. 2

The Journey Through Emptiness

Let me attempt to reduce some of my experiences to words, with the hope that You will meditate consistently until the issues below are revealed to You by Your Own Essence. I have mentioned that the Reason for Coming into Being is ‘Full-Joyment’ of Live or Love or Law. Now ‘why are we in so much pain, whether we have someone to Love or not? Lack of self-satisfaction in Life and Love; I do agree with the Priestesses, is due to lack of Fullness, hence we move around amazingly filled with Emptiness.

It is a sense of loss, deficiency and confusion. We go through Life with heavy hearts and lack that Natural Awareness as if we have lost our Consciousness. We become the Living Dead, i.e. as if the essential part of us has been taken away, removed, gone or it is not fulfilling our needs. Both helplessness and hopelessness become our best unwanted friends. Anger, anxiety, disappointment and irritability simply become extended family members that continue to reduce our self-esteem and quality of Life in us. Depression sometimes sets in and we do not value ourselves because something worthy is gone; so we see no reason to Live and Love, give or share.

Our essential nature is Consciousness. However, when we enter into so-called ‘Relationships’, we give up this sense of Self to the other. We compromise it due to fear of loss, and when the ‘ship’ capsises; something of great importance gets lost. The immediate reaction is a sense of need, and unknown to us is a sense of demand. We become filled with unending expectations to ‘Fullfill’

the emptiness hoping to experience a sense of Bliss. Hey! Simply stay peaceful in Your Emptiness and learn!

The Figment of ‘Relationship Bondage’

When we are unfulfilled, we ascribe value; due to poor judgment; to things, objects and events; as if these had qualities of deep inner joy for us. In this manner we voluntarily cheat ourselves and everyone who believes in such life fully filled with holes. A demand-driven and a need-to-have or an expectation so-called based relationship is the best way to Fall in and out of the same relationship, broken hearted. At their best, relationships are devoid of Love, Life and Natural Law as they are man and woman-made, a dream-state that turns out to be our worst nightmare.

The presence of expectations, needs, judgments, desires and hopes while one is unaware of these, is a clear indication of one who is preoccupied by a fleeting utopia. Instead of Living in the Now, conscious of the ‘Nowness’ of Love and Loving, we imprison ourselves in something external, only existing in our hopeful minds and prospects of the ever-absent and rudderless relation ‘ship’. On board this ‘ship’, we suffer mental anguish and spiritual agony. Harassed by empty deep holes within, we stay hopeful that the ship will bring tranqulising ecstasy. The tranqualiser is the other person and what they are offering, i.e. the need and demand to be appreciated, the hopes to be given something that will make us happy. We wrongfully judge that the thing that makes us feel fulfilled in the other person is actually a part of us. Unconsciously, we mis-identify the things that contribute towards our pleasure as us. It is here that the dead ‘ship’ of ownership, selfishness, greed, selfishness, control, obsession and possessiveness are born. We then move from pain to excitement to pain, and pride ourselves insuch ‘fear-tionships’. Can You relate to suchaformofa Loveless relationship?

© Ǻ Aunkh Khem S-Maã

HetHeru Full-Moon

Pt.3 is coming

Amen-Ra Papyrus: The Art of Love and Science of Loving – Return of the Goddess Pt.1

 

The Quest to Life, Love and Law

The mystical gift of Life and Love was presented to All to be fully enjoyed in any harmonious manner ever possible and imaginable. The powerful and magnetic force that binds All and

everything together is Love. The fullness of Love and Loving is hidden far beyond the veils of Life and Living. Yet, Love and Life, Loving and Living are inconceivable intertwined by Laws of Divine Nature. Thus Living the Life we Love can be fully realised by surrendering one’s Being deeper into the mysteries of Trusting and Loving the Laws of the Nature of Love.

The Laws of Nature are fully complete, immutable, yet constantly changing the cause of Life and Love because they are Life and Love Divine. Beloved! Life is Love and Love is an unshakable Law of the Divine Supreme, the One, the All, the Source, the Force…including You! Visualise and comprehend this Truth.

I, You and Many have a quest and continue to request for answers to their unending and unanswered questions: What is Love and why does It hurts so much? Who’s got the Love I really need and how best can I Love without getting hurt? Why does It feel like it is too good to be true to be in Love [actually we say Fall in Love]? What will happen if I loose my object of Love and will I cope with Life without It?

All these are very simple questions, yet mind boggling to those ill-prepared to fully embrace Nature’s Law, Love and Life [3L’s]. The hurt, loneliness and disappointments are our wake-up calls.

Mystical Journey of Self-Discovery

Now let us first reveal some of the Truths while exposing the lie we tell ourselves and at times believe. At this point, You, however need to be prepared to take a long, a very Long Journey. It is the Journey to be lived with courage, fearlessness and freedom to choose wisely, as Our Ancient Afrikan Love Priestesses and Pure Pleasure Goddesses lived, experienced and taught the Secrets of the Journey to Us.

In choosing to accept these natural principles, one need to be holistically [Body, Mind, Soul] prepared, to live even Beyond the Timeless Secrets of Divine and Conscious Relating. We should be prepared to dwell in Spirit and shed the darkness and opinions of the uninformed minds and our immature sensual perceptions. A pure mind and pristine feeling should complement our intuitive Self, and that takes some time, but does worth the patience. That which is Divine and Fulfilling surely cannot be attained overnight. The Secrets of Fulfillment and Living Live to the Full takes practice, failure, hot tears, heartaches, learning, endurance, joy, peace and perfection.

The Jewel is not at the end of the tunnel, but engraved on the Path itself. The Journey is paved with precious stones. The question is: Are You ready to walk the Higher Path of Fulfillment as Courageous Warrioress, a Conscious Divine Feminine focused on reclaiming Her Fullness? Deeper in the mysteries of this journey we find peace beyond pain and hurting. Meditate and ponder on the above issues for and while and see.

 

© Ǻ Aunkh Khem S-Maã – 12/12/2008

HetHeru Full-Moon

The Ladies Guide To Dating And Male Interaction: 10 Rules

Relax love ain’t going nowhere.

1. You will lessen your chances to attract and keep a man if you run after men all the time. Ok ladies, yea i know he’s fine..probably super fine. I get that. But give that man some space. Always remember the line from back in the day: If it’s for you it isn’t going anywhere. I’m here to reiterate that to you. There’s a better way than wishing things will blossom with a man by telling him how much you are thinking about him repeatedly, or telling him all your business thinking that you two will form a bond that way. NO NO NO. As a woman who has been on some dates in my lifetime and spoken with hundreds of woman and studied relationships over all. I’m here to tell you personally from a man’s perspective MEN WANT TO BE THE MAN. You gotta allow a man to pursue you. Most men are that way, at least that’s what they tell me. So ladies, put your energy into being receptive to a man getting to know you. Relax and enjoy the process of slow movement. Yes, you can still call the shots overall..Because i’m not talking about having sex with a man to be receptive to him, while you’re getting to know him. Honestly..we will speak more on that one in a few minutes.

You are where it’s at!

2. Your chances of landing a solid, healthy relationship will drop to almost 1% if you are needy and don’t want to be alone. I’ll say it again. Yes the man is shole nuff fine. However it is you I’m concerned about here. Think about your life this way, you were born alone. You should learn the magic art of being happy and content right now. Sure it is easy to do when you have a healthy support system in place. The important thing to know is that, NO man comes along to be your support system. You alone have to learn the art of making that a reality for yourself. Everyone isn’t cut out to be a counselor, coach or consultant. So why would you expect a stranger to provide such services to you, out of the clear blue sky and on top of that…FREE. No honey. I feel you but you have to enjoy the skin you’re in. Think about some of the things you enjoy doing and visualize the joy of doing them with yourself. The world will be much brighter once you take your time and smile about what you have access to. YOU HAVE IT ALL. Look at you:-). Think of it this way, how will a man want to spend time with you, if you don’t want to do the same. There is something magical that happens..i’m here to tell you personally! When you get into what you enjoy, even if it involves helping others in someway..thats even better! The universe shifts to bring you the people who match your frequency energetically. i’m not playing. Work it out and give it a shot. You owe it to you to enjoy life even more. And don’t think about a relationship like that, because your date is waiting for your vibration to raise up and then like a magician, he will certainly show his face.

Slow down, Enjoy.

3. Trust me when i say: Men enjoy a challenge. If you give everything on the first date: is there really an incentive for a man to stay around and get to know more about you? Probably not. Right. So here’s the deal. There are so many other things you and your fine date can get into to with your clothes on. Also it is better to keep all your deep childhood history and past relationship details to yourself. Studies show that a conversation about past relationships and sex both have damaging effects on a future potential relationship between two people. Why is that? Hmm i would say it’s because man want women who are light and joyful. If you share a story where you experience the entire misfortune in your head and you allow him to experience your thoughts and feelings about too much of your life too soon. He may not call back. You want to keep life simple and move on from the past before you decide to move into the hot land of relationships. I’m here to tell you. This will save you so much time and frustration in the future. Take your time. Rock his world with mystery not the heavy baggage.

Real recognizes real.

4. Learn to be yourself, don’t fake it. The truth will always come out. Whoever you are..trust there is someone out there just for you. Sure it might be cute to act like you are someone you are not. The question is, how long will you be able to keep that up. Over time everyone lets their masks fall and people will always know more of what is there. Karma is something. Just be you. If you don’t like who you are. Change it up. Elevate, Get creative and mix it up. We all have work to do. Keep it real and everything will be right!

There are other men out there.

5. Never compromise your standards just to have an attractive man on your tip. You know what I’m talking about. He looks good, smells like paradise but he has no values, no game plan and he wears his draws down to his knees . He told you he was not ever getting married. He said he wants to be single for life. HA! OK. So that’s not your ideal man. You knew it when he started breaking it down to you at lunch or on the corner. You aren’t that damn lonely. This is why its important to learn to love yourself. If you aren’t joyful about your life and who you are. You may fall for anything. You are way too smart to waste your life on people undeserving of your time. The next time you see something or someone who doesn’t fall in line with your Values (if you don’t have some, get some) my advice: KEEP IT MOVING BLISSFULLY…HONEY you don’t have time for that!

Be honest.

6. Listen to your heart..the inner wisdom..if something doesn’t feel right its a good idea to talk about it or move on from it. Here is a good example: You are on a date with a sexy man. He’s charming, sweet and opening up to you. everything goes well until (OH NO HE DIDN’T)… OH YES HE DID: He reaches down and grabs your behind. It’s the first date. You are looking like? ‘Uh i’m not feeling that.’ At that point you have a couple of choices on how to deal with it. First of all, stay calm. There’s no need to act up. Let’s not put too much energy into this. Instead, feel your inner wisdom and if you know whatever this man did is outside of your (VALUES) then you can say peace..thank you for the nice time and say i have to go now, and talk to him later about it or never again. Its best not to get into it while on the date as it will leave a staleness in the air. When the date is over you can politely tell him If you are planning on going out with him..let him know who you are and what your values are. Keep it brief. If he wants to really get to know you. He will totally understand. And if he doesn’t its just the opposite and that’s quite alright too. You have absolutely nothing to lose but foolishness. So smile and be proud of yourself for whatever decision you make. You will be glad you did. You know it too.

Is he into you?

7. If men don’t call you, they are just not interested! I’ve been there, you’ve been there. Waiting by the phone for a phone call. Excuse me, i know some of you haven’t had that experience since home phones were hot. There are so many reasons to call you right? RIGHT! so if you hear a man telling you all this sweet stuff. But, he never gets around to calling you, EVER. He’s not that into you. Period. There is no other way to interpret this thing. We all know it takes communication of some sort to get to know someone on any level. We all can agree that relationships don’t just happen by accident. They certainly don’t. So if he is across the world, there is a way to contact you, If he is working late, he can call you, if its been a month and he hasn’t called… fill in the blank again with the same words (he’s not that into you) If you think you should chase a man down to get his attention. Uhh please re-read the rules from the top down. If you don’t trust this. Just try it and find out. Better yet. Just take my word for it and call it a day. Go do your toes or watch a movie. But don’t sit around waiting in vain. If you are just friends that all it is.

You set the pace

8. Men like to take their time too, even though it may not seem like it to you. Some women move too fast for even men. I’m talking about men that want to be in a relationship or married with a family one day. Back to the loose women, Yeah i know we’re not talking about you here. However some women have this idea of covering up the pain they have inside by repeating their mistakes over and over with men who either don’t want them in any other way but sexually or they throw themselves at men that are already spoken for. You deserve better and they deserve better. If only you knew how Karma works is all I’ll say. Sistahs it’s not worth it. He damn sure ain’t worth it. And the entire situation is a waste of energy to top it all. Nothing good can ever come of it. There are men who say they want to take their time. Some men have told me that women never make them wait for even 6 months before they sleep with them. They even said they would love to have a woman who would make them wait. Of course that’s some men. But trust me ladies its more men that want us to make them wait than the other way around. And women don’t know the power they have. If you have read all the rules until this point you know the ball is in your court. All I’ll say here is get some values my sistahs. Enjoy the little things. It’s not too late to make a change either.

Law of Attraction and you.

9. You attract men on the same vibration that you are on. Don’t be mad at this one simply change you and you will see a whole new model in your life of friends and of course in the men you attract. This one is a no-brainer..its all about the Law of Attraction. It’s not personal. When you learn to love you, the world will too.

Allow room for growth to take place.

10. Don’t Expect a man to change unless you want him to resent you. Bossing a man around is not the way into his heart. That’s right. Last time i checked, resentment was not one of the elements of a happy healthy relationship. If you want to build a solid relationship with your potential lover, you have to allow him to make mistakes and allow him to learn from them. We as woman are allowed that luxury so we owe it to the men to give them the same love and respect. We are all on earth to learn the lessons of life. Most people had a personality and a life before they ever met us. We have to remember that and celebrate who they are. Of course foolishness and unhealthy behavior should be talked about but choose your talks wisely. You don’t want to create a problem where there is none. And some comments/ perceptions/ observations should be reflected (within us) before they should be considered conversation worthy. Sometimes we as women feel we should protect our interests in every possible way so no one can take advantage of us. This is why sometimes some women make a fuss when there is none. In-fact the only issue sometimes is the thoughts. Learn to visualize peaceful things and love. See your mate healed and being all that you know they are holistically. Your visualizations will help to bring out the good in them. Use your powerful imagination ladies to bring about change in you and in your families. Indeed our greatest strength is within.

Full Moon Incite

Planets of the Solar System

 

 

Manifesting with the MOON

 

 

Nothing from the outside can make you complete inside. If you don’t see the reason to be joyful in your life there’s only one key reason for that and it’s that you’re not seeing the true reason-divine reason that you came to earth this time. Take some time to reflect on the things that have happened in your life, both challenging and delightful. What have you seen over and over? What do you say to others that you don’t in your life? What do most of your interactions consist of? BINGO! Now use that list of keys to write out exactly what you are grateful for in your life. Use those lessons to see hat the Universe has tried to show you over and over through repeated themes in your world. Commit to realizing that change is the door that you will ultimately have to walk through to be successful with feeling your inner joy thats always inside you-always there. The peace that you are by nature is always there under the surface..you can transform into a more balanced and grateful person who is clear on what you have plus for your experiences this lifetime. I challenge you to look at someone you truly feel connected to, uplifted by, inspired to be like and encouraged by…Just remember this..When you see, hear or speak to this person – keep these words in mind for the rest of your earthly life THAT INDIVIDUAL IS BREATHING THE SAME AIR AS YOU..THAT INDIVIDUAL IS A PART OF THE WHOLE UNIVERSE..JUST AS YOU ARE.. THAT INDIVIDUAL IS EVERYTHING YOU HAVE THE INFINITE POTENTIAL AND POSSIBILITY TO BE IN THE NEAR FUTURE AND THEY ARE EXACTLY WHAT YOU ARE RIGHT NOW…close your eyes and feel the connection now..feel the connection to the one breath we all share and know that your HERO is disguised as a another person..they aren’t separate from you though..BELOVED, DIVINE ONES’…THAT GREAT BEING THAT INSPIRES YOU..IS ….YOU! and anyone that inspired you or not is you as well..do not be fooled by the body, these are the Creators many manifestations …your…REFLECTIONS. So, have the perception that you can’t go on..that somebody has something that you need to have before you can be complete..know in your heart that It is your thoughts and energies its your weight that is in your way ACTIVATE DIVINE MOTIVATION IN YOUR LIFE..BE UN-MOVED BY THE MENTAL CHATTER THAT SAYS YOU CAN’T!- ACTIVATE divine one..Breathe deep, rest deep and know you have a purpose for still being here and you are the only one who can do your deed WHATEVER IT MAY BE- you are free to BE nobody will stop you – Just move and create your life With Passion as much as possible- THE FUTURE IS NOW- MAKE IT POWERFUL– TAKE A STEP TOWARDS LIVING completely in BLISSSS. YOU DESERVE IT ALL! Go forward! Go for It! Think it! See it! Live it! Its is already done! SAY IT out loud;-) What are you waiting for? A confirmation? The go-ahead? Do you want a nod of approval? CONSIDER THIS IT!!! but know that you never needed it <3 YOU ARE OMNIPOTENT– KNOW THYSELF- YOU ARE THE (((UNIVERSE))) = ((( I ))) AND we are ONE. I share all my love with you to carry some on your paths..thank you for being a part of my life <3 ~ 100% Full Moon Energized Bliss (( 1 ))

Rules for Healing – If You Truly Want to Heal

English: Holistic health, body, mind, heart, soul
English: Holistic health, body, mind, heart, soul (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

by Ellen A Mogensen, Past & Now Forward Holistic Counseling

For Those in Healing

Just in case you wondered if there are rules for healing there are…

The truth is the healing rules listed below operate very impersonally just like any other physical phenomenon.

Follow these rules and you will heal. For these rules will put you on the road to recovery. Ignore them and you will continue to be ill.

No one is free from them ever. So either you decide to work with these healing rules or you will constantly bang into them.

The choice is yours.

1> YOU ARE THE ONLY ONE WHO EVER HEALS YOURSELF

You heal for two reasons. One, you believe you deserve to heal and that belief manifests as your desire to be healed. Two, your desire to be healed manifests as action on your part to get healed. So many people delay, deny, and diffuse their healing because, at bottom, they do not want to live. The desire for healing is truly the desire for living. You will only heal if you really want to live.

2> TRUE HEALING COMES FROM WITHIN YOURSELF

No one outside of you can take responsibility for your problems. This means that no one outside of you can really heal you. The truth is that healers are merely facilitators and vehicles for your healing. Healers can advise you, counsel you, and prescribe treatments for you but they cannot heal you. Only you can heal the spiritual cause (“as above”) of your body-mind problem (“so below”).

3> YOU ARE TOTALLY RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR HEALING

When you go to see a healer, you go for a few hours a week at most (unless you are seriously ill). So do the math: the rest of the time your healing is totally up to you. It’s your job to take the medicine the healer has prescribed. It’s your job to do the things the healer has told you to do. It’s your job to assess if the healer is helping you or if you should find another one. So if you are not getting the results you want from your healing, the first place to look for answers is in the mirror.

4> YOUR STATE OF WELLNESS IS YOUR STATE OF BEINGNESS

Everything in the universe is energy. We may appear to be “solid” matter but looks can be deceiving. If you magnify your cells down to your atoms, you would see that you are made up of subtle energy fields and not matter. Your body-mind is constantly radiating, absorbing, and conducting this energy. Every action, every thought, every choice effects your energy field.

Dis-eases occur in the body-mind due to imbalances and blockages in your energy field resulting from how much/little you have honored the needs of your body- mind-spirit, respected your path, and learned your lessons. In the long run, your state of wellness is the net result of your state of beingness: body, mind, and spirit.

5> YOUR BODY, MIND, AND SPIRIT ARE ONE BEING

Looking back one hundred years ago, we are amazed that anyone could believe that you could heal the body without healing the mind. Looking forward one hundred years from now, people will be amazed that anyone could believe that you could heal the body and the mind without addressing the spiritual issues arising from the manner in which you conduct your life. Your body, mind, and spirit are intimately connected and act as one. Your body-mind-spirit connect you to your lessons, your path, and to the oneness of the universal collective consciousness.

6> YOU WILL NOT HEAL IF YOU DO NOT LEARN YOUR LESSONS

The Earth is a big schoolhouse. You are here to learn lessons (if you have not already consulted Rules #1 for Being Human, please do so). There are many ways for you to learn your lessons. You can learn through pleasure or pain. The God Self within you, your Higher Self, is the one who sent you the problem to be healed to advance your learning. So the best way to heal your problems is to accept that you have lessons to learn and to do your best to master them.

7> YOU CAUSED THE PROBLEM AND ARE THE CURE

Your life is always up to you: do not ever allow anyone to convince you otherwise. Too many people too often allow those in the healing professions to define their lives by accepting the life or death sentences the healers decree. Only God is perfect: any human healer can be wrong (even me).

Case in point: if I had believed my doctors I would have died by 21, yet somehow I have lived to be 49+. I lived because I accepted that I had caused my problems and the answers to them lay within me. I was born deeply wounded because I had wounded others… but it was my wounds that led to my gifts. I healed because I forgave myself. I forgave myself because God loved and forgave me.

8> HEALING UNLEASHES YOUR NATURAL ABILITY TO HEAL

Benjamin Franklin said “God does the work (of healing) and the physician takes the fee”. And it’s true. Your body-mind was designed to be a self-maintaining system, automatically correcting for the problems inevitable to your existence on Earth. In fact, the truth is that you are always sick because your body-mind is in a continual state of fighting off threats from your environment.

You become ill when the body-mind is too overburdened by afflictions to go on functioning normally. Dis-eases and dis-orders result when long standing threats to the body-mind-spirit go untreated for too long. Death is only inescapable when the energy field is so degraded that the physical matter cannot be supported.

9> CURES HEAL ONLY IF THEY CREATE ENERGY HARMONY

The energy field that surrounds, penetrates, and binds your body-mind-spirit is in a perpetual state of activity. It is constantly in motion, continuously taking in and sending out vibrating energy waves. It processes signals of energy created by your actions, your thoughts, and your emotions as well as by your environment and lifestyle choices (food, sleep, exercise, etc).

Medicine, drugs, or herbs work to heal your body-mind because the vibration they produce has the right harmonic relationship to the part of the body-mind currently in a state of dis-ease. These harmonic boosts serve as an aid to the the self regulating mechanisms of body-mind in eliminating the energetic imbalance that caused the dis-ease to begin with. For only a balanced field can supply the body-mind with sufficient energy to maintain a healthy state of matter.

10> GREATEST HEALING TOOLS YOU HAVE ARE LOVE AND JOY

One of the best physicians there is has the sign saying “Laughter is the Best Medicine” prominently displayed in his office. That’s just goes to prove that the best things in life are still free – even in a doctor’s office! When people come to me for healing, I always know that those who can laugh about their ills and have a sense of humor about their problems will do the best. No matter what treatment you are on, it can always be improved by “a smile a day to keep the doctor away”.

11> TO HEAL IS TO ACHIEVE A BALANCED STATE OF WELLNESS

Simply defined, healing is achieving and maintaining a state of “wellness”. Wellness flows from fully developing each dimension of body, mind, and spirit and finding an overall balance between them. Ultimately, this balance is achieved by honoring your spiritual path and your unique purpose in life.

12> HEALING IS NOT ONLY REPAIR BUT ENHANCEMENT

Most view healing as a process of just “repairing” problems. Yet when all the repairs are completed, continuing the healing process takes you to the next level of your growth and enhancement. The universe is a continuously unfolding and expanding creation and there is always more to explore and to grow. Healing is the means to get you there: it becomes a journey and not just a destination.

If you are not convinced that these rules are for real, see how they relate to the Top 10 Causes of Death… take a few minutes to save your life.

If you want to clear, heal, and balance your karma, there are additional rules you will need to consult… the Rules of Past Life Healing.

Credits: adapted from different information provided by Barbara Brennan, Janet Koenig, and Victoria Pendragon and channeled information